This week on the show we were given the task of doing a sexy photo shoot.. I chose to do mine in jeans and a tank top, because I believe in a photo shoot they can be sexy.. Unfortunatly it turned out to be a fashion show. But what are your thoughts? Can a tank top and jeans be sexy
leilanidowding 
yeah it can be sexy depending on who is wearing it. i think you pulled it off sexy doesnt mean you have to be half naked
I think simple and subtle is sexy, and I think that your choice of what to wear, outperformed anyone elses on the show. Leave the lingerie in the bedroom, because what comes off as sexy is not just what you wear, but how comfortable you are wearing it in front of others. I know Steve pulled a 180 on you guys with the runway, but it made sense. When you walk out in public and turn a corner you don’t know who is going to be standing there. You have to be ready for anything, and that is where self confidence comes in, (but confidence is a neutral position, it never crosses over to conceited, and never draws back to shy, it’s a give and take state of mind within yourself.) You said an extremely intelligent and compassionate quote on this weeks show “If you can’t except someone at their worst, you don’t deserve them at their best.” I commend you for saying that, when your date had the courage to open up to you about his condition, which if you noticed it wasn’t something he lingered on, it was an out the door comment. He was honest and wasn’t looking for the pity card, he was just letting you know something about himself, and you move on to the next subject. Remember when dating it’s all about getting to know someone else, and finding out if they are right for you, (and they are doing the same, it’s not just you who is on the date, you have to keep in mind that you have only 50% of the floor on any date.) that means you don’t dwell on a subject, if it’s an interesting topic you may explore it together (give and take) for a time, and then move on. I know people tell you that your expectations are high, and you defend it by saying you won’t “settle” (I too have had people tell me the same exact thing.) All I can tell you is that when you find the right person, it won’t feel like you’re settling. It won’t even feel like you are trying to pull information out of that person, or trying to impress them by adapting to what they are looking for. (Because even though you might feel on a date that you are the one tying to find someone, you have to keep in mind that they are trying to find someone too.) You will find that a true connection with someone will always have a balance of comfort, discovery and spontaneity, that keeps you interested, playful, and compassionate. You are a beautiful woman, and I think you are well on your way to finding that balance within yourself. I think there is a bit of a front that you put up, to protect yourself from being hurt, and that happens when you’ve been hurt pretty bad, I had one up for a very long time, and it’s extremely unhealthy. You should just slowly lower your guard, and explore the “why’s” on a date, explore that topic more with asking your date why, they take that postion or hold that opinion. (but you have to be ready to be honest when you get a “why” back, NEVER be indecisive about something. If you don’t know much about it and can’t take a position, just tell them that you would have to think about it for a while and learn more about it before you gave them an honest answer. Men want a woman who is opinionated, if you find a guy who says otherwise he is most likely very immature, and not serious about a relationship.) It is absolutely fascinating to explore another person’s world, even if that person is not the right person for you, you still learn a lot by listening and exploring the people around you and finding out their perception on life. I hope you find what you are looking for, and remember to enjoy the adventure, stay elegant and classy. Best of luck!